关于死

关于死

总有一种禁忌，保持着一种距离，不看太多，不想太多。
想是，人开始长大。肩担渐增。才开始会稍微想一想。因为，不想做个不负责任的人。
人开始老了，或许才会事先考虑清楚，更或许一些会事先办理准备。
而我，还只是在想一想的阶段。

如果死，我会希望我对亲爱的家人朋友有所交代。
最亲的人，不想他们伤心太久，要快快收拾好心情，过充实的日子，寻找人生更多的精彩。因为，我觉得世界还有太多太多神奇奥妙精彩处，我没法发觉体会，会希望至亲的人会能体会到。而我在他们的脑海记忆里，他们的心里，一起感受到。我们并不孤独。

如果死，我有点希望我死的当天或第二天就下葬。华人有死后至少三天才有葬礼的习俗，我没有深入了解。因为始终保持着一种距离。我想，那是因为华人孝顺尊重长辈，对死者还依依不舍，还想瞻仰。像是，真正‘临走’（到投胎或九泉之下之类的地方）前，与家人亲友在作最后相聚。对我来说，那是一种很深的悲伤。我或许承受不了。

所以，活在当下。要活得精彩，要珍惜彼此。死后，你我他都没有遗憾。彼此祝福在不同的道路上，一路走好。

如果死，我希望越早下葬越好。因为，我曾经梦见，我在梦里死了，灵魂出魄壳，看到家人在我身躯边伤心哭泣。我也伤心地跟着哭泣，梦醒时发现我枕头尽是自己的眼泪所湿。一位犹太朋友说过，他相信人死后，要尽快下葬，好让灵魂Spirit到神圣的某处，一种解脱。他说，亲友如此做法，其实是对死者的尊敬爱护。因为，如果死者没有及早下葬，其灵魂会在灰色地带徘徊，找不着其定位身份。有一定的道理和感动。华人的传统相信有多少不同。

其实，有点怕怕的我，加上完美主义的我，也不太希望，死后的我，还会让太多人见到。想让大家记得的，是生前真实的我，欢笑的我。人死后，留下了皮囊，还留下了什么。真正的他，对于亲爱的家人戚友，其实本应留在脑海，活在心里。

真正的精神，是永存的，是一起的，是不死的。或者说，根本就没死与生。

就在当下，加油，精彩过一分一秒！*笑*

一起感受

伊可知道当我昨晚收到越洋祝福的时候

夜空是呈紫蓝
看来似乎像是伊喜欢的颜色
将来的画
请记得尽情地
挥撒伊喜欢的颜色
我们的那幅画
会是灿烂的
家里所以温暖

月亮是很圆很大
我们喜欢的浪漫
却从来没有一起看过
我却知道
将来我们会一起看
年轻的时候
躺在草原上看
年迈的时候
在家的后院看

空中飘着微细的雨
伊喜欢的天气
渺渺的雨
像温柔的纱衣
看着看着
更加肯定
伊是迷路的天使
放心
一路上
我会带伊一起一步步地走
轻快地舞

伊的祝福
我真的收到了
因为我这里看到的天空竟然是
伊喜欢的天空
因伊而美丽的天空
一起飞翔
那风
那空气
那景色
我们一起感受到

我打短短的电话联系
说些生活的琐碎
我看到日偏食
我想 相隔两地看到的 会不一样
我想让伊看见我所看见的
我所以拍了下来
看到一朵白云
我喜欢
想伊也爱白云
所以又拍了下来
我在城里慢步
电车经过发出声音
我也想让伊听到
所以拨电

恋爱
原是无聊的
但是
那无聊可以一起感受
是幸福的
所以感恩

谢谢伊
赐我天使的吻

两小无猜

昨晚看医生。在诊所，等待的时候，看到一对马来友族的小兄妹在嬉戏。不像许多哥哥会玩比较粗鲁暴力的男子气游戏。也让我想起我对妹妹似乎真的不够好，难怪zomo他们不叫我一声‘哥’。哦。。。是了是了，一定是了。汗。。
话说。。。

小哥哥吃力地抱起小妹妹，小小男生似乎觉得抱得起妹妹是莫大的勇气，无穷的力量，帅气的男人。抱了起来，开心地跑。被捧在怀里的妹妹，也呵呵地笑了起来。抱得累了，哥哥放下妹妹。大手捉小手，两人一起开心地跑。跑累了，哥哥的手放在妹妹的肩膀上，妹妹的手放在哥哥的腰上，慢慢地走，依旧呵呵地笑，说着一些我不是很听得懂的孩子气语言。他们俩的一举一动，仿佛像小小的情侣。洋溢的，是纯纯的喜悦。我想起了伊。

走着走着，哥哥的力气恢复了。妹妹笑闹着要抱抱。哥哥又再抱起妹妹，脸上显出微微的骄傲和喜悦，然后奔跑。妹妹轻爽的呵笑声，冲淡了诊所的忧虑气氛，溶化了病容。抱着，跑着，累着，放下。那兄妹重复了好几回同样的把戏。完全没有厌倦。最后，小兄妹都玩得累了。抱着妹妹的哥哥，连人一起跌坐在地上。我有点担心地想趋前。只见，那小兄妹坐在地上，哈哈大笑。我心里笑了起来。我又想起了伊。

是的。喜悦，是自然的，是纯真的，是不会厌倦的。我希望，我和伊，一起欢笑，一起掉泪，一起面对，一起了解，一起拥抱，一起手牵手，一起走我们这非一般的路。

来来。。给我一个高‘5’！！

Fragrance. Hygiene.

I think sometimes i have quite a sensitive sense of scents. I used to post a blog about fragrance. Apparently i dont know much about perfume. But i do like it, if it is used nicely and appropriately. The fragrance is something beyond the pure smell from the bottle, it is some sort of evaporation that reveals someone's taste, gesture, character as well as the chemical myth that work out the coordination of finest workmanship, technology and users characters.

Sometimes, i am attracted by someone just because of her fragrance. Lightly. Decently. And sometimes i will be feeling very good while walking on the grass with the breeze of flowers fragrance. All these little details do surprisingly contribute to a 'good day'. Do you know why fragrance is important? Guess you all have always heard this phrase "romance is in the air". SO, we smell the romance!

Fragrant, does not mean clean. Smelly, however means bothering to the slightest; annoying or disgusting to a tougher degree. Since i have been working for months here, i started to notice the importance of oral hygiene. So far, to my experience in communicating in the work field, most bosses dont have problem with oral hygiene. Sometimes i only smelled the coffee scent when they speak. On the other hand, i found it really annoying when a colleague talked to me with bad oral odor. According to some statistical analysis, oral hygiene does help in improving human relationship, in work, and also among couples. I do really feel a bit reluctant to kiss a girl if she has really bad oral hygiene. Imagine how much extents of romance could it kill, while whispering in the ears, kissing, or having sex... When it comes to such seemingly meaningless detail, i am surprised by how deeply it influence or recall memories of mind. I can even remember so far in my life, i have encountered a few special girls. It was as if, i could smell their fragrance while they spoke. It was like.. i could hear the words from their mouth, but also i could smell the words. Come to think of it... smell the words... how weird. I have to say, fragrance, could form a picture, a painting, or a film.

Well, i personally dont know if i have bad odor or not, because i have troublesome wisdom teeth. However i do always try my best to keep my mouth clean. I use brush, mouthwash everyday, and dental frosts sometimes. At times, friends do comment that i am pretty slow while brushing my teeth. Well, it cant be bothered, because i just could not simply rush it even if i am late. Oral hygiene also plays an important role to keep one's health in good hand. Oral bacteria could influence one's heart in long term.

Personally, i think it is also common and important to keep armpit and feet clean. Appropriate use of deodorant is good too. But never too much. And i am quite supportive about armpit hygiene. I think hairless armpit is good. It may not be scientific but many could tell from experience. About feet, i once went to watch a movie with my friends. One of them took off his shoes in the cinema and the whole atmosphere became smelly and unbearable. With this kind of friends, i would definitely not go to any Thai or Korean or Japanese restaurant that requires sitting on the floor cushions and shoes-off at the entrance racks. I would go somewhere else. Of course, friends, are friends still. It is just the matter of getting along together in daily life, especially for close friends, housemates or couples.

I could sound a bit too picky and fussy. I used to have a girlfriend who embraces clean and hygiene quite exaggeratedly and funnily. She has even tried 'enforcing' her hygiene habit on me. Well, i guess many things in the past participated in shaping the ME today.

(Photo: The Kiss- by Chasing Twilight from Flickr)